A few weeks ago, I did something I rarely do: I cleared my client schedule for three mid-week days, arranged friends to host my 14 year old son, Josh for three school nights and hired my dog sitter to watch our pup Jasper. I was determined to attend a womens’entrepreneur conference in Newport RI and took all the steps to make it happen.
When I was driving to Newport on a very dark mid-November Sunday evening, I felt free. Elated, actually! As a solo single Mom, this was not easy to do and I made it happen! I was giving myself three entire days away from my day-to-day life to be with other amazing women business owners, to work ON my business and not just IN my business, as they say.
I arrived to an incredibly lovely AirBNB and my roommate, Heidi, arrived shortly after I did. It was all perfect.
Then Monday morning came and we headed to the hotel for the conference to begin. Although the women WERE amazing and the information was helpful and potentially useful, I just wasn’t feeling it. I just didn’t want to be there. Have you ever had a moment finally arrive and it was what you imagined, but YOU weren’t in the space to fully experience or receive it?
Well, that was me that entire day. Like a bored kid at school, I watched the clock all day. I could not wait for it to be over.
I chose not to attend the cocktail party that evening. And, even more surprising to me, I chose not at attend the conference the next day at all. NOT AT ALL! I stayed in my pjs all day, got some work projects done that had been on my to-do list for months and then later in the afternoon took myself to see the amazing movie, Harriet, about Harriet Tubman (I highly recommend it, if you haven’t seen it. It was the most inspiring film I have seen in a long time.)
OMG! I played HOOKY!
The lesson in all this was that I really listened to what I was wanting and feeling. Though I had set up my life to be at the conference, that was not what I needed on that day. It ended up being a fantastic, relaxing and productive day and when I woke on Wednesday, I returned for the final day of the conference and took it all in. I felt refreshed and full.
The take-away message here is obvious: Be open to compromise, to change your mind, to give yourself what you actually want and need, not just doing what you “should” do or what is expected of you. You don’t have to be a “good girl” all the time, seriously. Your life will feel more satisfying if you allow yourself just a teeny bit of wiggle room. Just sometimes.